The Love of my life

As opposed to what everybody assumes, my husband isn’t the love of my life. He knows this; we talk of it often but the truth is the truth and there’s no denying it.

Without revealing too much about my one true love, it’s pertinent that I tell you what makes him so special and what he truly means to me. He’s never going to read this and he knows I love him but the extent? I doubt he will ever understand.

Very few people know that we used to live together at one point: He & I and it was the best thing ever. I remember so many drives home from work when I’d invariably be having a bad day but just the thought of seeing him would cheer me up. Coming home, seeing him, I’d just light up and my happiness knew no bounds.

Our midnight drives, coffee runs and ice cream hunts: some amazing moments spent with him. He is the most avid listener I have ever come across. He never complained when I was in a bad mood, and as a matter of fact, he was never in a bad mood himself. One of the best things about him though, he was always so supportive. He never threw a tantrum and never did he ever get angry at me.

We had our moments of disagreement, I won’t lie. He often did things that I just could not deal with and many a times even failed to understand. I’d try to reason with him but he’d become this stone cold wall with no reaction, no justification and never a word of defence. His looking down was most certainly a sign of guilt that was near well impossible to miss.

He is a ladies man! Always has been, always will be. I never really see him deny it nor make any effort to hide it. I mean he & I would be walking alongside each other and he’d just leave me to walk up to some lady across the way. Unabashed and super chill! If that doesn’t surprise you, what will? I mean when he was with me, I was his be all and end all! But outside our home, he didn’t carry the same sentiment. You know he’d never eat anything unless I served it to him. He wouldn’t take care of himself, instead he’d wait for me to take care of him. Ask him why!

Other than the near philandering ways I’d say he was perfect! When he and I separated it was one of the worst things to have happened. I was inconsolable and I cried like a baby. It wasn’t possible for us to live together anymore due to circumstances that led to that moment but I knew my life would never been the same. You know when you’ve experienced that kind of love, nothing can ever compare.

I put him out of my mind for a while. Moved on, did things to keep busy. Met new people, made friends, travelled, but he was always there, in the back of my mind. He is still close to my family so he’d pop up in every family picture and somebody or the other always had their arm around him. I used to miss him more than words can say and Mukul could see my pain. There wasn’t much we could do about it but I began to feel that my life had lost the colour it needed.

And then, a few months ago, Mukul asked me if I’d like to bring him back into my life. I couldn’t deny its what I had been wanting to do myself but was unsure if Mukul was ready for it. But he was supportive and encouraging and just like that he was back! My friend, my love, the ruler of my heart, my Buddy!

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Isn’t he the cutest?

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When we moved to Bangalore, we had to leave him back home in Delhi with our parents because we couldn’t take care of him alone, but he’s finally moved in with us and I couldn’t be happier. He makes everything better! Our lives, our health, our sense of peace and calmness…everything seems so great! A Blessing and a Gift and unending pool of love, this munchkin is everything and more that I could ask for, and his name is Buddy!

xoxo

 

 

 

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My mommy-My hero

So, I realise I haven’t blogged in a while but here’s the thing, with work and a commute of over 2 hours (everyday- ONE WAY) and a complete home to take care of (including cooking) with no help whatsoever, can be tough!!! phewwww…! 🙂

And nothing gets better when on top of it all you have the flu. Your nose feels like its gonna fall off because it’s so raw from the constant wiping. You feel like your body is heavier than lead and you have a 2 year pounding on a drum inside your head. Uggggghhh!!!

Falling sick is the worst thing that can happen to anybody, especially me. Why? you ask? I guess it’s because I can’t feel as sorry for anybody else as I do for myself now, can I? 🙂

I was so unwell last week that I could barely get out of bed. But, my husband dropped me off at my mommy’s for some serious TLC.

Whether you are 5 years old or 50…. I honestly think that whenever you are sick all you can think of is your mom.

I don’t know about anybody else, but whenever I am sick I crave for my mother’s hands, stroking my hair like she used to whenever I used to fall sick as a child. My mom pouring me a hot bowl of soup, fluffing my pillows, tucking me in…. Aaah! The works. 🙂

A mother’s love is a mother’s love and nothing can stand up to it, not even you-oh flu virus..!

When I was younger, I used to fake being sick on school days (as I am sure everybody has done so when they were children). Atleast I used to try. My mom would never buy into my bluff and would always say “go to school, and if you start feeling sick, come back home”. Disappointing as it was, I’d still go to school because you see my true motive was not to avoid school (although that was an added bonus) it was to get my mom to stay home with me. 🙂
And funny as it is ironic, I know for a fact, that’s exactly what I’ll be saying to my kids when they try to fake being sick on school days 🙂

It wasn’t the “quality time” we would spend together, it was just the idea of knowing she is at home because between my teenaged sister and me and my dad (who, by the way my mother claims, was no less than a 5 year old child, when at home) and a full time job, I used to think my mom doesn’t have any time dedicated especially to me. But I realise now how much time she actually did dedicate to me. She took years off from a full time career to be with me, she tucked me into bed every night, said my prayers with me, made me delicious food whenever I wanted it, irrespective of how tired she was, and how she sacrificed sleep, food, comfort, basically everything to sit next to me when I was in the hospital for an appendectomy.
She was unwell herself but she did not move from my bedside. She wouldn’t eat but she would make sure I am well fed, she wouldn’t sleep but she would make sure I got several hours of sleep.
Even today, she manages to take care of me even though we don’t live together anymore. I have a home of my own now and I am the “go to for anything” person in my house, I am the one who “takes care of everybody” but my mommy, still takes care of me.

My husband and I continue to be amazed and surprised at the amount of energy, enthusiasm and quiet strength that lies within her.

We appreciate you Mom, we love you and we inspire to be like you-more and more each day- My mommy, my hero! 🙂

Have you thought of all the things your mother has done for you in the past? Or continues to do even today?

Take some time off, call your mom and tell her you love her. She may know it, but would be so nice for her to hear it, out of the blue, randomly, because she did and she does all that she does for you because of those 3 words.

Thanks for reading everybody, and don’t forget to tell your mom, how much you love her. That’s what I do, everyday! 🙂

Ten pick up lines you should never ever try

So, recently I applied for this fantastic writing opportunity in a very popular and cool place. Even though I cannot disclose the minute details, I can tell you that they are the most socially updated, and most prominently upcoming retail company India has seen in a while. I like their stuff, their style and so on.

Anyhu, they asked me to write an article on “10 pick up lines you should not even try” based on my experiences and, so I got to writing. When I started writing, I was surprised that it didn’t take me very long to come up with 10 cheesy pick up lines 🙂

If I wanted to be called a liar by everybody I’d say- “Pick up lines are boring.” But, the truth my dear Watson, is that lame, cheesy pick up lines entertain, like nothing else. They make you roll your eyes, sometimes in mock frustration and sometimes in REAL frustration, but all in all, it never fails to provide a laugh. OK!!! If you’re in a bad mood then maybe a smile. So, from my source of entertainment, here’s a list of 10 pick up lines, men should never try. 🙂

#10  “Hi there! I saw you from across the bar & thought, why don’t I brighten her day by having a conversation with her?”

Recognize the fine line between confidence and arrogance. If you’re confident, it’s attractive, but you are NOT God’s gift to women – if you were, you wouldn’t need to use a pick up line!!

#9 “Hey! I saw you, and I just knew that the Universe didn’t bring me here for nothing. It brought me here so I could meet you.”

Seriously? Have you considered, that the universe probably brought you here to get beaten up for using such a ludicrous line??

 #8 “I feel like I’ve seen you somewhere. Oh wait! In my dreams last night”

I’ve heard some pretty lame one-liners. But, with this line I couldn’t even bring myself to laugh. If you could roll your eyes as far back as I did, they would get stuck in your head.

#7  “I like my drinks and my women fiery. I have this baby {gestures drink} in my hand and all I’m waiting for…. is you.”

Fiery? Let me spice you up with a black eye and chilli powder up your keister.

#6  “What are we going to do about this obvious chemistry between us? I mean, I got pulled all the way from the other side of the bar”

I laughed, pulled my gay friend in front of me and said “I think your chemistry maybe with him. Let me get out of the way”

#5 “You look like my next girlfriend”

My (then) fiancé (now husband-Mukul) saved him from me by saying “Yeah? I kinda think she looks like my wife”

#4 “You know a lot of celebrities use dance to work out. How about you and I work out together?”

OK! First of all, do you think I’m fat? And I should be impressed? How?

#3  “I was thinking- You’re hot, I’m hot, let’s have dinner and see how it goes”

This happened to my friend and me in NYC. My friend turned her back to him and he looked at me and said “How bout you senorita?” Persistent li’l fella!

 #2 “I have to say, I love everything Indian, & when I saw you I knew I was in love, so I figured you must be Indian.”

If you love everything Indian, how come you don’t live in India?

#1 worst pick up line used on me: “You should be someone’s wife. How about mine?”– WHAAAAAAAT? He jumped right to getting married!!! He reeked of desperation and I actually spilled my cocktail on my skirt while laughing

So that’s my list, but I am calling out to all you lovely ladies to share the worst pick up lines used on you, and to make it dramatic, here’s a poetic invitation:

If you girls have a new one to share,

Shiny, unused and a breath of fresh air,

Don’t hide it up your sleeve or in your collar,

I’d really love it if you’d just holler!

 

Don’t forget, be social and share share share!

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To be or not to be….My frenemy!

Quite often we come across people we just don’t like. Maybe, a colleague, or a relative, or somebody who provides an essential service, like the maid perhaps? or the dry cleaner?

You cannot deny that there are such people in your life. However hard you try, these people just don’t make it to your “Favorite people” list. And 90% of the time you don’t really have any option but to put up with them. So what do you do when you come face to face with a person like that? Do you look the other way? Do you gulp everything you’re dying to say or do you actually go ahead an say it, fully aware that the person on the receiving end needs to deal with you, as much as you need to deal with them?

All that aside, then there is the case of frenemies. 😀

A lot of women, tend to refer to other women in their circles as “frenemies“. Ever wondered where the term frenemies really came from?? You have a friend. You call that person a friend because (and I’m referring to a woman’s perspective ONLY) you really can’t call her anything else and she is nice to you and even polite, but she is more than willing to turn around and stab you in the back at the blink of an eye. But the chances of that happening are more likely none, because she’s friends with you for a reason- either you’re in the same circle of friends, or you share a class or you both need each other to help finish the ugly project you have to submit for midterms, or better yet- she is the girl your brother is dating.

That’s my favorite one! Your brother calls you both his special girls, and he assumes you will get along fabulously because you have him in common and which 2 unrelated women in the world, did NOT get along when their connection was a man they both would kill for???? Men are weird like that. They don’t really understand the complexities of female relationships, and I don’t blame them. Even women sometimes cannot understand the complexities of their own relationships with other women. 🙂

So, how do frenemies behave with each other? I haven’t come up with a term for the behavior yet, but I will soon.

Till I come up with said term, I’d like to call it sweet sarcasm.

My husband (Mukul) enjoys doing his own version of sweet sarcasm to people he doesn’t really like and it can be extremely funny, when you’re viewing it from a third party perspective. He doesn’t have any ‘frenemies‘ per se, so he just does it to people he has no option but to deal with, but he won’t let them take him down by being over the top nice either. That’s Mukul for you! 🙂

So here is what Mukul does: He smiles, shrugs and says all that he wants to. If it’s somebody who is related to us through blood or marriage: Mukul puts his palms together, bows his head in respect and then says what he wants.

Putting your palms together is a sign of respect in most south Asian countries. So, by doing that Mukul shows them (relatives) respect, which kind of seals their lips because the physical gesture of showing respect outweighs the words, in that one moment. Also, he does everything simultaneously, which confuses a lot of people and they don’t have as much time to formulate an appropriate reply in their head. Personally, I think that is fantastic!!!!

It’s an acquired skill, and I am yet to acquire it 🙂

Sweet sarcasm or not, you gotta deal with your so called frenemies, or whatever version of frenemies you have. How I like to deal with it is to smile away to glory and keep looking at that person, they know what your thinking, they know you can take them down, and most of all, they know they can’t do without you.

But then again, can you?

In conclusion, I think we all need a frenemy or 2 in our lives, especially women.

Come on girls, can you honestly say our conversations are just as lively if we are NOT bashing our frenemies?? 🙂

When women meet other women they always ask themselves this question in their heads (Probably ask it out loud in sororities):

Hmmmm….To be or not to be? My frenemy?

Thanks for reading everybody! Be social and Share, Share, Share!

And so it begins..

Here it is! The start of the story, the beginning of the beginning, the opening of the dialogue. I am excited as well as nervous to be writing my first blog post.

Its not like this is my first time writing you know? I mean…

  1. Expressing myself through my writing- Check
  2.  Wordplay- Double check

Anyway, new things always have that kind of profound effect on you? Don’t you think?

So, I wanted to start my blog by telling you a little about myself. I don’t mean the usual “my name, my job, my educational qualification”, because I am not looking for a job here. I meant 25 totally random things about me. Here it goes…

  1. I have the best Mother in the whole world. Period!
  2. It’s my husband Mukul’s quiet strength and reassurance that allows me to be as wickedly crazy and all-over-place as I want.
  3. I am absolutely petrified of snakes and if I was one of those unlucky people who came face to face with one, I don’t think I’d have the presence of mind to run the other way.
  4. I never know what to say or do when somebody cries in front of me especially if its somebody I really care about.
  5. I really believe in “what goes around, comes round”
  6. Christmas is my favorite holiday.
  7. I love Salman Khan- The Indian movie star!!!
  8. If there was one thing I could change, about myself or my life, I wouldn’t change a single damn thing. Life is too short for regrets.
  9. I prefer winter even though I always say I hate it.
  10. I love seeing new places.
  11. I’m from the school of rock, and so are most of my friends.
  12. I’m greatful to God for my wonderful friends.
  13. I’m ambitious
  14. I’m difficult to please
  15. I don’t appreciate people who think they know ME, without actually knowing me.
  16. I think weddings are a lot of fun.
  17. The concept of rebirth makes no sense.
  18. I am always game for sic-fi and action-fantasy movies.
  19. I’d rather curl up at home with a book, than go to the mall.
  20. I miss my dad- A lot!
  21. I’d hate it if I were behind the times, technologically!
  22. I love this quote “When I’m sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead”- Barney Stinson
  23. I am fully aware that there are very few people who would want to read 25 random things about me.
  24. I try to face my fears head on. I have an Eleanor Roosevelt quote hanging near my desk that says, “Do one thing every day that scares you.”
  25. I am sarcastic, and I enjoy other people who are sarcastic because I can bust their chops and they don’t take me seriously.

So that’s about it! I succeeded in putting together 25 things about myself, and I didn’t really have to think too much to put this list together.

This is the start of a very long and fruitful association between me and all of you guys who are interested in reading what I have to say.

Together, we’ll talk about all the small things in life that fill the cracks and make it all worthwhile.

Take care and don’t forget Be social and Share, Share, Share!

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